We had a professional writer in a few weeks ago to train our staff to write our Blogs better. She gave a writing assignment based on whatever provocative image stirred you. She told about being on vacation and having the time to just observe a squirrel who was busily going about his business but with just one paw. Some incident had robbed him of the use of one of his little squirrel hands. This is what I wrote… “I feel crippled in my life. I scurry about my business energetically trying to find and save the savory nuts of genuine love, heartfelt respect, deep connection, emotional stability, success as a writer and financial abundance. I fumble around a lot. I just can’t grab hold of things the way I would like to. Many times I need to just slowly nudge the treasured nuts along the ground an inch at a time. It makes me discouraged and sad when I don’t accomplish what I want so very badly. But I have an abiding fire in my belly. I picture the warm mighty oak tree of my life filled with wonderful, delectable nuts that I can leisurely feed upon in my declining years. I will never give up. I work tirelessly. I know that I can do it. I just wish that it was easier. It really hurts crippled, but it makes me work the more determinedly. It is my dream to have enough delicious reserves to share with any loved ones in need. I’m okay.”
I am actually a pretty healthy guy emotionally these days. But I’m still crippled in some areas. So are you. So is your spouse. So is everybody that you know. If you think that you are extremely healthy and it is just your spouse who is crazy or your just girlfriends who are nuts then you really don’t have a clue. Everybody has some wounding from their childhood experiences. Almost everyone has some shame. Serious abandonment issues are rampant! Very, very few of us had even one semi-healthy parent. Relationships are meant to bring up and expose our unresolved issues from our childhood woundings. Painful relationships are a gift. They are our mentors for maturity and healing. They are opportunities to cry, grieve, own the truth about us and own who we are and where we came from. They are all good. There are never, ever any victims in relationships or marriages. Embrace the pain. Embrace whatever truth the universe is trying to impress upon you about you. Become a most productive and happy little squirrel in spite of any wounding that you have gone through in childhood or in adult relationships. Gather your precious nuts with joy and zeal and purpose.
Mark E. Smith, LCSW (317)507-8866 email@example.com