One of the most difficult and confusing questions is, “should I stay or should I leave my relationship?” By the time someone comes to therapy, they’ve spent a lot of time ruminating on the pain and problems of their relationship. My work, as a therapist, is to help you figure out if the marriage/relationship is […]
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What Marriage Is, What Marriage Is Not Indianapolis Marriage Counseling
I dearly love attending weddings. The beautiful music, the innocence, the joy and the unbridled faith in eternal love never cease to make me shed a few tears (that as a self-respecting counterdependent type I wipe away before anyone catches on). The message is almost always given that marriage is THE source for such priceless […]
You Know You’re Crazy, Right?
We are ALL crazy. If you know that about yourself then that potentially can help you to be a lot less crazy. The craziest and most dangerous people on the planet are the ones who don’t have a clue about just how crazy they really are. They are still believing myths about themselves…because they have […]
The Secret Mind Blowing Actual Purpose of Marriage
I was invited to another wonderful wedding recently. My handsome young nephew had a smile that could have lit up the universe as his gorgeous blond bride was making her way down the aisle to join him in the bonds of matrimony. He was marrying the woman of his dreams and it was all good. […]
THE Most Difficult Issue To Work On: Abandonment!
As a therapist seeking to educate clients concerning a wide variety of issues, it has actually come in quite handy to have firsthand “experience” with more than my fair share of dysfunctional personality traits. When God gives you lemons I guess it’s time to make lemonade. Here is another case in point. Several years ago […]
Your Marital Problems Are Actually A Gift
Once upon a time, there was a nonconforming sparrow that decided not to fly south for the winter. However, soon the weather turned so cold that he reluctantly started to fly south. In a short time ice began to form on his wings and he fell to the earth in a barnyard, almost frozen. Then […]
Healing the Shame that BLINDS You
Shame is the common cold of mental health issues. Just about everyone has some and it can make your life very uncomfortable. Much of what has been written about Shame has focused on its internal workings of the misery it wreaks rather than on its divisive impact upon relationships. The book that I have recommended […]